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Yeah that seems to be the theme of most people with BPD.....constant failure and tasks that normal people just seem to have little problem with.

I dropped out of college after 2 weeks....i've quit every job i had after no longer than 6 months......and i've MARVELLED at my friends that completed college or university. I just don't understand how they could do it.......not because it's hard to pass or anything, but because i just can't see how they could drive to school, pay attention, study, do reports, and to that same +%%! over and over for years after already doing it.........i wouldn't of made it thru highschool if i didn't skip every 3rd day. And even then, it was a chore......

I'm this way about everything....dieting, i can't tell you how many times i've gone hardcore at the gym for a month or 2 months, only to just stop as soon as i started to like the way i looked. My weight has gone from 160-230 back and forth about 10 times in my 28 years.

Not too much has changed either, i still struggle with any sort of committment or consistency.......but i'm ten times happier now despite being pretty much the exact same person, i've always been.

Achieving all your goals isn't going to make you happy....it will for about ten minutes, then you'll find new goals and new things to want. New self-identities that will matter, or more reinforcment of the ones you and i've worked so hard to create. Even if all our BPD symptoms went away, and we suddenly could pretty much easily do all the +%%! we can't........it wouldn't make much of a lasting difference at all.

You don't need to be all the things you want to be or accomplish all the things you want to accomplish to be happy. And that isn't some "don't worry be happy"-mindlessness, it's just plain old logic. People have thought about what makes a person happy, what happiness is for 1000's of years and people have also done many many studies......use the benefit of their work, look em up, read their works......

THere's nothing wrong with wanting to be better and be more consistent and achieve all your goals.....but there is also nothing wrong with not letting any failure to do so bother you.